Dom has the iciest glare I have ever seen on any human being. At times he would sit on the sofa look over at me (even though I hadn’t said anything) and have this look on his face that would make the hair stand up on the back on my neck. When he wasn’t freaking me out with looks like he wanted to kill me he would sit straight ahead and watch the Television without so much as saying a word to me. He would also have a cushion between us, and I felt like my mere presence was disgusting to him, he said the cushion was just a comfort thing, but I could tell he hated me in some way.
As far as body language, if I asked him to repeat himself for any reason (he would mumble all of the time…usually about me…) he would get really close to my face and say things like “If you cared at all about what I was saying, you would have heard me the first time!” He stood so close I had to take a step back up, and sometimes that was into a wall.
After I had managed to step aside I would see a sick smirk on his face. My discomfort was such joy to him. His words said that he loved me, but his words and gestures suggested the exact opposite.
I explained this to a married friend one day. Sure her marriage was not perfect, they had arguments (not dysfunctional ones) and they got on each other's nerves, so I asked her if this was anything that she ever experienced in her marriage. She put her hand over mine and said “Honey I am concerned, the way you describe his behaviour is just plain creepy.” At the time I would make up excuses like “Oh he is just moody, but now I see she was so right.
